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HER DEMONS

She curled up in her bed, her tiny knees up on her chin. She held herself so tight trying to stop the tears from wetting her pillow but the more she tried to stop the more she cried a river. Looking at her, I ached to pick her up and assure her that she will be just fine. I desperately wanted to tell her that the pain will go away…not just yet but eventually though.

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She was just a child, young and innocent with the whole world before her. Just like every little girl, her world was full of happiness and she took in everything with a keen look. She led a colorful life full of laughter and hope but he took all that away from her. How could he? How could he defile such a delicate flower? She tried to call out, she screamed her lungs soar for someone… anyone to come to her rescue but no one did, no one could hear her.

He tore into her insides while her little hands tried with no avail to push his body away. The more she fought the more he laughed hysterically while saying how much he loved the feisty ones! Poor little girl, the pain…oh the pain. It shot throughout her numbing every sense but pain. The excruciating pain grew with each and every passing second that he crushed her. She literally begged death to come. She just wanted to die as she could not take the pain anymore.

She cried and begged. “Oh God please please please help me” , she willed. She lost consciousness as her frail little body gave up on her and when she regained consciousness, he hurt her over and over and over again.

It was like a nightmare that had come to life and it still haunts her to date. Maybe one day she will be free but for now she battles her demons

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ONLINE DATING

•Online dating sites
•Group 4
•Introduction

 Remember back in the day when relationships were mysterious and there was a thrill in meeting and getting to know new people? Well sadly online dating threw all that away.

The internet’s advent has partly displaced not only family and school, but also neighbourhood, friends and the workplace as venues for meeting partners.

Yes we still meet partners through the conventional way but we always run an online check on them more often than not.

 

•DEFINITION OF TERMS
•Disruptive medium –  New technology that unexpectedly displaces/interrupts an established technology. It can also mean an event that results in a displacement or discontinuity.
•Online dating sites – Sites that allow individuals to contact and communicate with one another over the Internet.
•Open Media – Positive and innovative engagements with new media technologies and new media and cultural forms and relationships, ‘open’ in the sense that it adopts a collaborative ethos and makes use of ‘freemium’ meaning the service is offered free but premium is charged for better features.
Popular examples
JDate, Gay.com, Christian Mingle, Ok.Cupid
•Interpersonal Deception Theory
•In this theory, Buller and Burgoon define deception as occurring “when communicators control the information contained in their messages to convey a meaning that departs from the truth as they know it” (205).
•Pros of Online Dating

 

•Online dating sites offer access to way more potential suitors than conventional dating methods.
•One is able to go through the potential suitors’ profiles and learn things about them beforehand. This may be a good thing as some people find the art of trying to know their significant others’ likes and dislikes tiresome but most of the time the information is far from true as the internet is full of narcissistic selves and more often than not its is a gateway for sex offenders, rapists name them.
•Online dating keeps one from having to go through being humiliated or rejected.
•Many people lead busy lives and they don’t have the time to go out and mingle so as to meet potential suitors so online dating sites come in handy to them.

 

•Cons of Online Dating
•Browsing through and comparing  profiles of potential suitors may lead to commoditization and may thus result in unwillingness to commit to any one person.
•There is nothing like online private policies therefore all the information one gives on this dating sites no matter how private you deem it to be is public record.
•One ends up having too much expectations from the potential suitor (S) and this may lead to disappointments.
 
Relevant TED Talks
•http://ed.ted.com/lessons/inside-okcupid-the-math-of-online-dating-christian-rudder
 
•REFERENCES
•http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coventry University_Department_of_Media#Open_media
•Buller, D. B., and Burgoon, J.K (1996) “Interpersonal Deception Theory.” Communication Theory (10503293) 6.3 : 203-242.